不敢说不是缺少倡导的典型特点。那样，应该怎么样说不呢？
2: It is difficult for me to say no and I often end up taking on tasks that I dont want.
对我来讲，说不是一件困难的事。总是最后我挑起的是不想做的任务
Addresses saying no.
怎么样说不
A classic sign of a lack of assertiveness1 is the inability to say no. When you are unable to say no, you lose credibility. You communicate that your time is not valuable and therefore that your contributions are less valuable. When on the other hand you show that you know what you do best and what your limitations are, you exude2 confidence. This doesnt mean that you should say no to everything except those few things you really want to do. It means that you should prioritize and gain practice stating why you are not the person for select jobs. 缺少倡导力的典型特点是不可以说不。 当你办不到说不，你就失去了可信度。你在表示我们的时间不是宝贵的，也因此你的贡献也不那样宝贵。而在相反状况的状况下，你表示出了解自己最善于什么，不善于什么。你散发出的是自信。 这并不意味着除去真的想做的事情以外，你对其它所有事情都要说不。这意味着你应当把事情做个优先化处置，并在拒绝指定工作上积累经验。
When you say no, dont apologize or over-explain why you are saying no. Take responsibility by using I statements to show where your strengths are best suited. State your reasons clearly and assertively3 make your request. 在你说不的时候，无需对为何拒绝道歉或做过多的讲解。用我的句子来陈述你的长处，如此也就讲解了为何对那些工作说不。表明你的原因，果断地提出请求。（to be continued）